Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Monday, October 25, 2010
Yeah the chief and I have been talking tats for a while now, its just been one of those things where we say ''yeah that would be so cool, right?'' A couple of weeks ago we talked about it again. Chiefs cousin who is such a sweet guy and an amazing artist works in a Tattoo Parlor in Centralia Washington. We left the kids with grandma, which was a little awkward to do. Here watch our kids so we can do something totally young and crazy and get tats, she was very gracious about it though didn't tease us or anything.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
I know a small part of her story. It would be a piece of cake for me to have compassion and understating. This summer my preconceived thoughts proved me very wrong. I felt ashamed for my lack of bonding not at all on her side, she was ready arms open wide for a mama. For sure there were many situations that allowed me to fell ill equipped, but I began to take her attitude and adjustment personal. She would begin to push and I allowed her to push until I had a dis-connect. I had a hang up, I would find myself unable to comfort her when she needed it, because I was still upset about the last episode of battles. I felt ashamed, I know this is what I was suppose to do, but wasn't this suppose to be a little easier on my end and my emotions, I am the stable one here right?~! Dr. Karen Purvis lecture at the Together for adoption conference a few weekends ago made me realize I had hang ups from my past. I needed to look at the past, heal so I can parent much better. I get so many compliments of my ''goodness'' for adopting an older child so many ''that's great that you can, I don't think I can'' the ''wow your a saint''., people mean well when they say these things. In Reality I am no saint. I am a selfish individual, I get very grouchy at the loss of me time, I get very upset when my kids disrespect, I loose my temper, I get critical, I am dismissive often, I get frustrated and show no mercy or grace when it could be so easy to do so. BUT....
Gods Grace is so sufficient for me. I am growing, I am learning that older children adoption does not mean you get all this baggage, It means that God shows you all the baggage YOU HAVE, helps you to heal from them to help your fragile child become whole again, and through it guess what you become whole again too.
What is it like... a daughter from another mother? LIFE CHANGING.
Saturday, October 23, 2010
I offically can't stand packing. I want it to be over. I want to be all done. I am so far from it. The moving truck come this Thursday and we keep it for a few days before it leaves, on the 2nd. We take off the 8th and our renters move in pretty much right after that. SO, here is what I have to figure out help me out here. I have no car and no beds from the 2 or 3 so for about 6 days we are going to sleep in our sleeping bags and eat on paper plates for a few days, I can do this no problem. It the getting around I may have some issues with. SO...if you are close to my home during these days, come see me I will be stranded and will need some coffee! I may sneak over to Chiefs mom and dad and sleep under their roof for a few days too...I may just surprise them with my whole tribe ;)!
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Its been a roller coast of emotions as we are packing and meeting with old and sweet friends to say good bye. I think I have 5 girl outings with different set of friends, and we have a few good bye parties. This last weekend our neighborhood gathered at the end of our street for Octoberfest. Our sweet neighbors new the way to Chiefs heart... beer. They had sampling of beer and playing beer games ( I make him sound like a lush huh!) We both Love Jesus, AND we enjoy a good brew! The afternoon was so special for Chief and I to enjoy the company of our neighbors and it was bitter sweet. It hit me right in that spot in your throat that makes your eyes water, yeah, that one. I think about five times last week, I asked chief are we doing the right thing. This year I LOVE everything about our kids school teachers. They have the best teachers we have ever had and go to the best school they have ever been.
I walked into my hair Salon and I will miss my hair lady very much :(. She is the best at curly hair ever. So if you are in the Puget Sound area and have curly hair visit Naomi at Marie Alice Salon. I walked in with the intention of a trim, a boring old trim. When the girls behind the counter always make me feel so out of style, just by their sheek hair and snazzy boots. Naomi had bangs, I commented on how much I would love bangs but my crazy curl hair and bangs no combo right? Naomi looks at me and says you are so funky and cool you can pull it off. Peer pressure sheesh. I walked out with bangs. I giggled at my hubby because he had a school boy gaze at me, I remind him on Winnie Copper from the Wonder Years. Thats good right?!
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Friday, October 8, 2010
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners Isaiah 61
Yeah that's our job!
Hope Chest International fights trafficking and has safe homes set up in some of these cities, they have been successful in rescuing girls from the grips of this horrific evil. The rescues are not only taking them out but setting them up with counselor for helping healing of these girls and providing safe place for them.
We were in Tom Davis Q&A where we got to ask questions and Tom and Vince Giordano Outreach director for Hope Chest, were very helpful in answering these questions. One person asked how much these rescues cost $2300-2600. This includes everything to help the girls get out, and help them receive all the things they will need. We were all done with the Q&A and I am sure I can express what everyone in that room was feeling like we were hit with a ton of bricks. The gentleman that asked the question about the cost stood up and asked if he can say some things. This is what he shared in a nutshell
''I am sure that everyone here wants to do something, Now we can, we can all walk out this room and come Monday morning we may not think about these girls! I have counted us in this room we are 80 if we can all give 30$ we can rescue one girl, think about it like your own daughter. I have a 4 year old daughter and I can't even begin to imagine this! Whatever you give I will double, please don't walk out without doing something!''
We began to open our wallets and people writing checks and placing all the money on the podium, hoping that we will at least fund to save one girls lives. Look at what happened here.
Tom has a new novel out called Priceless. Check out this website to see how you can be engaged in helping set captives free!