Friday, October 30, 2009

The paper work is all done...and in Ghana right now!

I know what this looks like he is so annoyed, Yes he was because there are tons of things to sign when you are doing your adoption paperwork.
Sign here and here and here and there and don't forget here.

And this is what my face looks like with some of the questions. I am happy to report. That our dossier was hand delivered to Ghana by a wonderful adoptive family. So we have a huge weight lifted. Next week the kids are also notified they have a family for them. They will get a package also hand delivered by a family that has small toys we all picked for them as a family and a letter telling them about us along with a photo album and two new shirts. Scroll down to see them. We are excited to hurry up and wait again. This can take a few months. We don't even think about the kids coming home until almost the beginning of the summer. Ahh the wait.

Teabo Trouble and Terrific things too

Seems like life happens so fast I hardly get a chance to document the terrible and terrific things so here are a few from our week....Terrible: Our little stinker six year old rode in an ambulance with me, after slicing his finger pretty bad. He had snuck knife from my cutting board to cut a tree. Yes we have told him 100xs do not play with knife you will take your finger off....this is my kid that just has to learn the very hard way!
Terrific: Ruby and I baked our first loaf of bread. This is huge for me I spend so many hours in my grandmothers kitchen and wanted girls to help this way to. Its silly but I love it!

Terrific: My son reads a book a day. I have to shrug his shoulders to get him out of book world to come eat. This was in his back back the other day yes...all of it!

Terrific:We sent out our packages to our Ghanaian kids. They packages well let them know they have a family waiting for them. They will be hand delivered next week, then they will know.

Terrific: We lost two teeth in the same week. Love the toothless grins!

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Adoption-Not for the faint of heart

I have heard people say this before and I even googled this phrase to see what will come up. I have read blogs on my google search as well as quotes that share the joys as well as the hardships of adoption. Seriously what does this phrase even mean?

What has been the biggest hardship this far? I'm gonna say the reaction we get when we tell some families and just a few friends (really most of our friends the ones that really know us know this is God, a few family members as know who you are!)

Its been challenging to get the sighs on the phone or the lack of support by just being silent. When we got our referral I wanted to shout it from the roof tops and share it with everyone, yet I didn't feel like that would be the case with a few. God has shown me time and time again that I do not need the approval of others in what He has called us to do. He told us He has things for us that people would think we have lost our minds. I'm sure some do.

A few months ago I was struggling with what I knew God was asking and what I knew people would say or not say and that we probably would not get a pat on the back from every single person we told.

He also showed me the sin in that desire to need that from people. The more I pushed away the feeling and command He has for us, the more I had turmoil in my heart an unsettling.

Someone asked me if perhaps it could be discontent in just being happy with what I have three kids . To which I began to pray about and He began to reveal to me that I will never get a peace in my heart until I jumped out in faith to what He has. WE DID, still with tons of fear or the unknown.

The greatest joy so far?

But today hands down I know we are in His will right in the center. I feel joyful even when discouragement may be at my gate. I feel thrilled that My Father is pleased with me! I know that on the other end of the earth two kids that pray for a family is getting their sweet prayers answered by a loving God. A big joy, that my children at home are learning the Fathers heart for Orphans as our family is an example of His hands and feet to answer the call. They get to see parents who walk in Gods way regardless of what others say and regardless of the cost.

Friday, October 9, 2009

God and His Perfect Timing!!

Reading a post I wrote back in February of 2008 its amazing to see where God has taken us from that still small whisper to a loud beckoning to where we are right now. With our first few steps of obedience, He has brought us to Africa again and again. I look back at that time frame when there was that nudging that we are not done if Africa. February 2008 ,where were the kids lives at this time G (our now 7 year old from Ghana) just turned 5 in that month and E (new son who is now 3) was just turned a year. God had already been at work in a heart seas away that would one day learn about them.
I sit here and think...I could have pushed that desire or yearning out of my life. Because I was a busy mom (HELLO I AM A BUSY MOM!) I could have said let the missionaries take care of this, my husband could have sent me to fly a kite. There were time trust me I thought I had gone insane! At that moment we didn't know God would grow our family by two more, we just knew He wanted us to still be praying for Africa and for me to be involved with something somewhere.

That yearning lead me to a trip in December of 2008 to South Africa, our kids were already at E House the orphanage. The trip to Africa lead me to an open heart to adoption outside of Ethiopia. We started looking at other countries that lead us to Rwanda, Rwanda lead us to the possibilities of siblings when we were praying about a sibling set of three girls that fell big time through the cracks. That lead us to Ghana that lead us to the kids we will have joining the family.
Why didn't God just say ''HELLO YOUR KIDS ARE IN GHANA?" Why all the chess moves as I like to call it. Why the side roads and not the straight path?
The same day I started looking at photos of the kids in E house Ghana (August 6)I happened to see this little chubby cheeked face child that I acquired about and Anita the Ghana Coordinator for AAI said Oh they became available today! They? Then she began to tell me a little bit about his older sister. I did not want to even get my heart out there again to fall in love with kids that would not be mine...not thanks not again!
As I look back at the kids that I thought were ours Themba from South Africa, the loli-pop girls from Rwanda, I see God had me praying for them because He has other plans for them and I was a mothers heart pouring out prayers for them fervently when maybe no one else was or maybe not as mothers heart.
Why the kids just became available that same day I found that sweet face and they were there for a while, I don't know I am just amazed at God and His timing.
The kids had been placed on the waiting kids list because the other parents waiting on referrals the ages did not fit well for thier family. We could not place a ''hold'' on them until our home study was written and approved, it was a nice short wait ;)! But I had peace, that God knew and He would grow my heart fonder of these children, He so did!

Is it just me or does this just knock your sock off! It sure does me! I LOVE YOU JESUS!!

Monday, October 5, 2009

We said YES!

I am incredibly nervous and so excited all at the same time the feeling you get when you board the airplane to see a friend or family member that you have not in a long time. That butterfly in the tummy feeling.

We said yes this morning to parent two kids from Ghana West Africa. We get to be their mommy and daddy. Their story we will keep quiet about because its theirs to share one day. They are brother and sister. Our little girl is 7 and she just has great eyebrows and is just tender and sweet looking. Our son is 3 will 4 in November and has some chubby cheeks we have had people tell us he looks like our son A with he checks and facial expressions.

It seems so surreal, because international adoption is so unpredictable we didn't want to tell anyone about them until we knew for sure that we were going to pursue them but we found out about them early August and began to pray that the Lord would open a way if those are our children if not that he would erase them from my mind. Guess what I had a total peace to just live our lives and it was not an overwhelming feeling I did not obsess over them. I just put it right before GOD and left it there.

He brought it back just in time our home study was completed and approved and they were on the waiting list and we knew after reading about them they should be in our family.

You know how people say they know that those kids are theirs right when they see them. I saw picture of the kids back in August and for me it was not that way. Not that they are not cute they are adorable and sweet. I just didn't want my heart to be crushed in the way it has been these few months by seeing kids on the waiting list and saying yes to them to find out we could not adopt them.

Always still possible but I have to TRUST this is God and He is good to us always.
Still today as I sit at the computer in awe of what HE is trusting Him for, I still wonder how on earth He will provide for this one. To me the number seems like a huge mountain. It can be very discouraging to look at and even weight out, however I can not deny His goodness.
ps. Remember the miracle we were asking for about our house that God would sell it or do something big with our mortgage. Well okay He didn't pay it all off. But we got a modification (meaning the changed our loan for free and for the life of the loan) and are saving close to 500 bucks a month. Hello Miracle in my book ;0!

Friday, October 2, 2009

2 boys Birthdays 9 and 6

Our boys turned 6 and 9 last year. Time is going oh much to fast! My nine year old is such a brilliant kid. He is the one pictured above in the yellow. He is our future business owner he says its in his mind constantly how we can see something and wonder how much people will pay for it.
Its really interesting to see his mind work up some ideas last week he made a candy stand and sold 9 dollar worth of candy with the neighbor kids, he was at a 3 dollar loss so we chatted about gains and losses, great lesson.

My six year old is a story teller, I don't think I got the right story yet of how school has been so far. He makes up very interesting stories such as on the first day of school he said his principal spanked him so much he got ringworm and they took the kindergartners on a field trip to Fort Lewis to teach them about bazookas. Today he saved his whole class from a fire. Yet there was no call from the teacher to report such a trauma!

Loves these boys!
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Pray for sweet Abby Riggs!!