Thursday, June 5, 2008

Are they yours?


I am not bragging at all....Ruby is just too cute to hang with! I enter a room and all eyes are on Ruby I know this all well. I cant shop at a store without Ruby making eyes and saying "HI!" to everyone and anyone. Which I love that she is this social. Everyone knows her name and forgets mine, that's okay I am used to this by now, I am just Ruby's mom....oh and the other boys. Today at the gym (yes I made it to work out !:) a trainer looked at me and said "Is she always this good?" To not get into the sometimes I gave a quick nod yes, but answered "she has brothers and they make up for it ":) real honest hey?! He asked this "Oh are they yours?" Ruby is mine too dweeb! I know he didn't mean anything by it, I know he meant biological, however are people aware of the terminology they use? I should not be this grumpy and I knew with adoption we will always be looked at and living here in the Northwest the looks are very innocent and in adoration and a simple curiosity. But sometimes it gets old. Sometimes I want to walk in the store to get cheese without having four people stop me in the isle to have Ruby goo goo gaga at them. It was not like this at all with my boys, and they are handsome devils well I think! Moms of adopted kids do you feel this way at all? Does it grow old and will it just be a part of everyday routine?

10 comments:

I WOULD GATHER CHILDREN said...

Nat, yes we experience this EVERYWHERE we go. We even got this at our friends garage sale!! Except it goes like this...all my kids are right there and people look directly at MC and say to themselves OUT LOUD, "You are so cute! She is just soooo cute!" We even went out to an ET resturant in MI with other adoptive ET kiddos and even they said to her while looking right at MC, "You are so cute! MOM we should take her home. We want to get her!" They said it so much I actually looked at them and said to stop!! LOL!
jen in mi

Mommy, Momma, Mom and sometimes Babe :) said...

You are an ambassador girl! These kids are beautiful and what God has done in our families is beautiful. Not everyone gets it but when you shed some light, God is glorified! It can be irritating but you are not alone.
Love ya,
Sharon

JonesEthiopia said...

I know exactly what you mean! My Rose is beautiful like Ruby, and everyone always stops us and talks to us about her. Sometimes it is ok, but I've never been one to like a lot of attention so it makes me feel awkward, too! But it is worth it because my girl is such a treaure!

Christin and Robbie said...

Thats the one thing I am concerned about, espically living in the South, where its not uncommon to see transracial parent/child relationships but for many differnet reasons, there was a story in a book I read where the was a mom who lived in the South and she was white and her adopted daughter was from Africa. This mom was saying if her and her husband where around people got the idea of what was going on(usually) but if it was just her and the children people pre judged her(which in my eyes so what if her husband was of a different race, but not evreyone feels that way) and this stranger in the store asked this mothers daughter "honey what does your father look like?" and the little girl who was about 3 said" afrog!" I love this story because the little girl was so innocent, people are so out there and willing to ask anything but the mom went on to say it really opened her eyes and she gets to tell people about Christ and this journey He has lead them on!....so we will get the stero types that all the very uneducated southern people will make but I look forward(well may be not foward but will be more aware) to telling them about Gods mircale!!! Oh and your Ruby is a beauty!!!So I know that has a lot to do with it!!!! :)

julie_joshb said...

oh yes and Ive only had maya for three months! :) miss emailing with you! xoxo

HouseOfSmooches said...

Oh yes, we get this a lot too! It does seem to lessen the older the kids get though. I think a lot of times people just don't know what terms to use, so I use it as a chance to educate….”Carlos, Jeremiah and Natalie joined our family through the miracle of adoption and Ben joined our family through the miracle of birth.”

Hauswife said...

Me, too. Sometimes I'm OK with it and sometimes not so much... *blush*

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Jodie Howerton said...

She is absolutely gorgeous. Her joy invites people into her world. 30 seconds after meeting her, I KNEW God had gifted her with joy......

Her joy is a reflection on the incredible parenting you guys are doing...Way to go!

Karen said...

Though we're not there yet, I expect that the same will happen and I don't imagine it will ever stop. We took that "Conspicuous Families" course, and we're pretty much prepared for the idea that if we choose to make a conspicuous family... well, we'll be conspicuous! So I'm sure it will get old, but how blessed we are to get to have these babies, even if they don't allow us to blend in. :)

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