Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Beauty from Ashes an adoption story by Natalie Teabo





I just wrote this story to our agency for a entry to a magazine, I dont know if it will get choosen but I wanted to share.









What brought you to the decision to adopt?
We are asked this question so often I have written the story on the tablet of my heart although its still difficult to talk about it does get a little easier with time.
Our heart to adopt comes from ashes, Ashes? Yes ashes. You see in May of 2006 we birthed a son that had endless medical issues one that we knew would perhaps never live to see his 1st birthday. One whom we held as he entered Gods throne on August 21, 2006. Hudson Sawyer is his name. We loved him with all our being, we hoped for a cure in his condition, we seized prayer without ending. Yet our son Hudson did not have healing. Our hearts were broken and as we packed up the belongs to our sons room we could not help but wonder if this is the last child that will enter our hearts or my womb.
My husband Frank and I through we should talk to a Genetics specialist to see if this could happen again to future children. We both went through a series of genetic test to find out that we are both in the clear and what happened to Hudson was what they call a fluke. Even though we were both "good to go", we had a sense that maybe God had something more for us, something more special.
That’s when adoption came to my mind what could be more perfect, than Hudson leading us to this road, to give another child a chance of life just as we did to him.
With careful prayer and research we came across All Gods Children International. Without much thought of country we decided Guatemala would be ideal, I am Hispanic and my family would be so accepting to a Hispanic child. It made sense, no need to look at any other county . So we did our home study paper work and signed contracts. When our social worker came to do your home visit she made sure we knew the complications of an international county adoption and asked if we had another country as a back up plan. "What ?" I thought I had already envisioned a Hispanic child with us it could not be another country. My husband was intrigued by her comment and asked her what country she would have us consider. "Ethiopia", she began to tell us the facts and statistics of this county, all the while I was so scared inside. All these stereotypes came to my mind, the kids with the flies around their faces, big worm bellies, dying. Before my social worker had time to finish her advocated speech for Ethiopia, my husband Frank said "YES!"The social worker was surprised at Franks quickness in the suggestions and asked us to pray about it talk about it research it, and let her know. I could not sleep all I could do was think about these children orphaned on the streets of Ethiopia, my heart grew more and more excited I had never felt this way about a child that was not mine yet. I knew it was a feeling that the Lord gave to me , it’s a jolt inside of me and I could not grab that phone fast enough to ask our social worker JoAnn to change the paper work.

The name we choose for our daughter Ruby, reminds me of what God did to my heart, he chipped away the pain and the hurt from losing a child to find a true jem. And from the ashes comes beauty, hope from suffering.
Is our pain gone because we adopted? NO! One child can never replace another one. Yet the gift that God has shown us through adoption has been a huge part of the healing process for us.
We fell love with Ethiopia as we fell in love with our daughter Ruby. The faces of the children will remain in our hearts forever. It is a country rich with culture and understanding of human sacrifice. Our stay in Ethiopia was unique and treasured.
Its ironic that we thought we would go save a child when in reality this child has saved us.

13 comments:

God Gift From Ethiopia said...

I love the article and I am very proud of you. You are right these babies are a gift to us.

The Gresham Clan said...

WOW Natalie - this story is incredible!! Thank you so much for being willing to share not only your joy of Ruby, but your devastation over the loss of your beautiful boy. I can't begin to imagine, but what I am amazed by is the way in which you allowed God to heal you. You are a true treasure Natalie! Your family is so blessed to have you. Thank you again for sharing!

Kristin

Our journey said...

Beautifully written Natalie.

The Mize Family said...

Wow, what a story! Tracie A. told me about your blog. We are just getting started in the Ethiopia program! Isn't God good to take our hurts & bring joy out of them! Love your blog & sweet kids! We have three boys & are waiting for our girl!
Karey M.
mizeadption.blogspot.com

shelly said...

Beautifully written!

Chris said...

Wow
What a beautiful story !!
I too wanted to adopt from Guatemala and had a change of heart for Ethiopia.
I am now waiting for my baby girl 's court date on April 221st .
I have been following your story since before you traveled to pick up your beautiful Ruby.You are an inspiration for my family .
Thank You .
Chris

I WOULD GATHER CHILDREN said...

Dear Natalie, thank you for sharing your story. It is a beautiful story.
love,
jen in mi

Michael and Michelle said...

Wow, that's a pretty amazing journey you have been on! I can't wait to hear what will happen with your story.
Those pictures are wonderful.
Michelle

Our journey said...

Thanks for the prayers. The dossier made it there safely! Now we are just waiting for that FDL. How hard is to stamp a piece of paper already!!!

Amy

Michael and Michelle said...

Natalie,
I love this story! It's amazing.
I also want to tell you that one of my favorite posts ever was the post about the road to HH. I copied the picture you had on that post and put it on my blog. I love that picture and can't wait for my feet to be on the road.
I love your blog!
Michelle

Em said...

Thank you for sharing your incredible journey! Beautiful portrayal of walking with our Lord in the good and bad times. I just cried as I read with that song playing, very moving. Love you guys!

snekcip said...

Beautiful entry no doubt! I remember Sweet Hudson w/beautiful memories and also remember the journey to your beautiful Ruby! God indeed has a plan for all of HIS CHILDREN, as well as a blueprint for each of our lives, we just have to sit back and watch the "plans" unfold!!

Heckert's Highway said...

I can't believe I haven't read your blog in this long. I love your story!!! I absolutely believe that you should have it published!! I am so proud of you and blessed to be your friend. Thank you for being so vulnerable with us and for sharing your story. I love you! Jenn

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